“I can’t have five weddings!” my new friend exclaimed. “I am just going to have to pick a dress.” We were two brides in the throes of wedding planning, learning that we couldn’t incorporate every gorgeous, creative idea from Pinterest. I loved her joyful spirit and the contentment she had with what she and her fiancé were choosing. Because every time we make a choice to do something in life, we also choose not to do something else. And I often focus too much on all those options left behind.
My groom and I chose our modern invitations, blue and orange colors, and dark chocolate-covered orange peel favors to reflect our personality and style. Most importantly we chose to love each other for the rest of our lives. Then a short time later we watched our friend float down the green grass in her gorgeous gown and commit her love to her groom.
It’s very easy for me to second-guess decisions that I’ve made. I only spent 2 hours picking my wedding gown, and it was great; I really loved it. But after the wedding I saw others and wondered if they would have been better. And I saw other wedding centerpieces, bridesmaids’ dresses, favors…you get the idea. Really what I wanted was five more weddings.
But I only get one wedding and one groom…and for that I am incredibly grateful! Our wedding was amazing, so full of love from our family and friends and our Heavenly Father. And that was just one day. My husband is full of love and I get to experience him every day!
When I think of many choices in life, it helps me now to think, “Well, I can’t have five weddings!” Because I can’t have it all, but I can choose something and enjoy it.
But when I think of marriage, I love to think that God chose my husband for me. I love being on the other side of the wedding, where the debate “Does God have a specific person for you?” is now a silly question. There’s no second-guessing this choice… I love you, Noah, for the rest of my life.