I’m excited that Boundless published my post yesterday. I’m thankful to my husband for encouraging my writing, and for his amazing love and support during our first year of marriage!
He knows what I need…and it’s not necessarily what I think I need or what other people tell me I need.
“You need to spend more time and effort on your appearance.” This could help me get a better job, a boyfriend, or even just better treatment when I’m out running errands. Yeah, I work on this, but there’s always one more beauty product I could buy. God knows what I need to look like to get the promotion or the husband He intends for me.
I look at the meadow
And stare at the flowers
Better dressed than any girl
On her wedding day Continue reading
How can there be joy in loneliness? It is a form of suffering to long for meaningful relationships and to be left unsatisfied. For example, a dear friend moves thousands of miles away. The desire for marriage and family is left unfulfilled. A church does not feel like a family. A teenage daughter screams, “I hate you!” One person is “de-prioritized” from another person’s life. A bad marriage is lonely whether or not the spouse is physically present. Even in a good marriage, the husband and wife do not connect on every level.
Loneliness has been a part of life since Adam and Eve chose to eat the fruit, resulting in the first broken relationship, their relationship with God. Not long afterwards in the narrative of Genesis 3, we see Adam and Eve’s relationship breaking apart as Adam casts the blame for the decision on Eve. From there, the soap opera of Genesis begins, with no shortage of murder, incest, rape, betrayal, and deceit.
Skipping ahead, we see a man locked in prison. His brothers had planned to kill him, but they found it more profitable to sell him into slavery instead. He had served his master faithfully, yet he was falsely accused of rape. He is far away from home, and not a person in Egypt cares whether he lives or dies. There is no one else in prison who believes in his God. There is no fellowship among believers, no small groups or prison ministry. Betrayed by his family and imprisoned in a foreign country, if anyone could be lonely, it would be Joseph. “But the Lord was with Joseph and showed him steadfast love and gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison.” (Genesis 39:21) Continue reading
This is no joke. Changing a break light is really a two-person job. So when another driver kindly let me know that mine was out last Saturday, it didn’t take me long to start wishing I was married. I prayed to God and asked Him for a husband. I know how to buy a light bulb at PepBoys and change it out. I just needed someone to tell me which light was out while I stepped on the break and to confirm that the new one worked after I replaced it. In my experience, this is not something the employees at PepBoys are eager to do. Understandably, they would rather do the whole job for me and charge me fifty bucks.
Surprisingly enough, God did not give me a husband on Saturday. Instead, within ten minutes of my prayer, he brought me a neighbor who was walking his trash out. Continue reading